• Ella Winbolt

how to not compare yourself to others.

When scrolling through social media, it can be hard to not compare yourself to others. You may find yourself thinking your wardrobe isn’t trendy enough, your body isn’t good enough or that these people seem more successful than you. It can make you feel that you aren’t good enough.

Comparing yourself to others can steal joy and cause stress. Therefore, if we don’t stop with the comparisons, it can have a negative effect on your mental health. These are some tips and ideas you can try to break the comparison cycle because it’s a game we’ll never win.


social media is full of distorted realities.

Repeat after me. Not everything you see on social media reflects reality. I’m aware you probably know this, but have you ever really thought about it? One post is not the complete picture of someone’s life. It’s just a carefully edited snapshot of it. We can find ourselves spending so much energy trying to keep up with a life we think everyone else is living because we’re afraid of missing out and not appearing as fun or as successful. So, try to take the focus off others on social media and put it back on yourself, concentrate on making you happy. This can be done in many ways, including spending less time on social media, unfollowing the accounts that make you feel bad about yourself and turning off your phone when with friends and family – be present in the moment.


learn to compete with yourself instead of others.

Instead of comparing yourself to others, focus on your own goals. Where are you now compared to one year ago or five years ago? You may not realise it, but you’ve learned, improved, created, and accomplished in the past few years. Think about your achievements, how you want to progress further and create some personal goals. It may be to finish your education, to try a new hobby or even something smaller, like trying to read a new book every month or so. You can record your personal development through journaling. If you’ve kept journals throughout your life, go back through the pages and see how you’ve grown as a person. If you haven’t journaled before, there’s no better time to start than today.


practice gratitude.

When your focus shifts from what you don’t have to what you do have, it can greatly improve your mood, and you will find yourself spending less time comparing yourself to other people. Make it a part of your daily routine, either on your notes app or whatever paper you have lying around. Start your mornings by writing down three things you are grateful for in life. They can be big, such as your family and friends, or small, like the coffee you had that morning. You may not feel different straight away, but over time reminding yourself of the things you are grateful for will bring you joy.


At the end of the day, no one has the time and energy for unhelpful comparisons. They cause feelings of inadequacy and worry. Hopefully, some of the ideas above will work for you in your journey of breaking free from comparisons. It may not be easy. You may think in the back of your head that there will always be someone more talented, prettier, and intelligent than yourself. The trick is to remember what you offer to the world and focus on what makes you happy.


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